Anyways, when I was 5 years old, I was molested by my stepdad, Mike (Not his real name, but we'll just call him that). Recently I've been opening up about my situation and trying to see if I could find help. Please do not read this if you are extremely sensitive about molestation and such.
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If he is indeed gay, it can't have been easy hiding it all these years.
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Just have a calm conversation.Īnd try to have some compassion for your dad. There may be some easy, if unusual, explanation. It may be that the gay porn means nothing. That is why it's important to talk to him about it. These are just some of the things you might end up thinking about. It would not be right to ask a son to conceal such a thing.Īnd what of any anti-gay attitudes and feelings you might have expressed within his hearing over the years? Might you have inadvertently insulted or hurt your father by the things you have said? And what about the things he has said about homosexuality to you? Has he said things that now would make him appear to be a hypocrite? It would be quite a conflict I would stop short of promising him to conceal it. Since you indicate that your brothers have strong anti-gay feelings, you might want to take extra caution in considering whether to tell them or not. It might also make you fear your dad: If he is capable of hiding this life of his, what else might he be hiding? Might his love for you also be false? Might he harbor a secret contempt for you, as just another boring straight person? It brings a new dimension into your relationship, in which you consider your father in a new context. If your mother and father have been fighting, it might make you think that you know now what they were fighting about - that this has been a struggle between them of long standing. It might make you see certain events of the past in a new light. It might make you think about some of your father's friends also and wonder if they were not just friends but lovers. Such a thought might not be wholly based on reason, but it could occur to you nonetheless not all our thoughts are rational. Since he is your father, it might cause you to question whether you might be gay as well, or potentially gay. It is likely you would feel quite angry and betrayed if that were the case. He has been acting as though he is a monogamous heterosexual father when he is not. It also would suggest that he has been deceiving you, the kids. Perhaps he has been deceiving her, possibly for some time. If he refuses to tell her, then it might fall upon you to tell her. If she does not know, I think he should tell her. If he were to admit that he is gay, I would ask him if that means he's going to separate from your mom. Let's think about what that would mean.įirst of all, if your dad is gay, he may separate from your mom. Suppose it turns out that your dad is gay. It is tempting to say that what your dad does is his business.
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Tell him it's just that you saw it and you could not ignore it. Tell him you are not bringing this up in order to pass judgment on him. But also tell him that you realize that it may be impossible for him to talk about it honestly with you. If what he tells you doesn't sound believable, tell him so. You may realize that you wanted the truth from him and are not getting it. If that happens, it may be very upsetting to you. Just get out of the house somewhere where the two of you can have a private conversation, perhaps outdoors where you can walk while you talk, and tell him that you saw that material.
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But you can't just let it go.ĭo not assume that your dad is gay. It probably won't be in the top 10 favorite conversations with your dad. You have to have a conversation with your dad about those pictures. This is one of those situations where there isn't a really great solution. I have no one to talk to, and I feel like I am doing my mom wrong. How do you think I should deal with this? Should I talk to him or tell my mom? I know my brothers would disown him and I don't want to hurt my dad, but he is killing me. My dad is very secretive, and I have found his porn that is man-on-man.